October 26th 2005

Friends and Enemies

Friends

What makes a Friends a Friend?

A friend is someone that listens to your ranting on and on about your job, your sex life, your family, your co-workers, your children, your parents, your OTHER So Called Friends... then there's enemies.

What makes a Friend a Friend?

They offer advice, they make you cry and laugh all at the same time, they care I mean REALLY REALLY Care, and they somehow stick with you til everything seems alright.

Friends are people too!

To have friends you have to be a friend. Whatever happened to REAL friends. Do they move away. Buy a new house, get married, have children, get a job in a distant town, change their lifestyles and grow apart. Somehow REAL friends will always be your friend even though you are miles apart and forget you even skipped a beat when you see them again.

Real Friends are there til the End.

Now what about those so called friends who really don't give-a-dayum? Those are the ones that you give your all and all. Then all they do is Take and Take. You share your most deepest darkest secrets. Then you find posts of your rantings on the internet about how big their baby toe is. Or how poor a cook they are. Where they REALLY friends to begin with?

Secrets they tell

Finding out that they hate your guts is an aweful feeling. That they ONLY used you for whatever they could get out of you whether it's money, sex, or an opportunity they couldn't get elsewhere for FREE. Then they walk all over your trying to make you feel guilty over YOU being Nice! They pull that Guilt Trip on you and perhaps so many others. It's probably their MO.

So HOW can you tell if one is a TRUE Friend?

Their honest, forthright, giving, accepting, nurturing, kind, loving and most above all else a FRIEND. The ones that stab you in the back and don't share their secrets or talk about their history when they were a child or how or when they first did it. Makes me wonder. Do these people even trust themselves?

They probably lie to everyone, steal hearts and pocketbooks whenever they can, talk poorly about their parents and children or pets. They even probably value their car or other inanimate objects over Real Peoples Feelings.

I can't say that I haven't met the latter.

As I have, these are the people who make wishes for the control over others, for wanting more than they can actually handle, for something that even if they gave it their best shot, not Once in their lifetime would a cute guy or girl give them the time of day because they have an Ugly Heart.

You See... Good People attract Good People. Ugly people attract anyone who listens to them ranting and controlling efforts and condescending ways. They will make you feel little in your high heel shoes. Trying to trample on your feelings without regard to the consequences.

YES, consequences... you see What goes around comes around. You can't get away with being angry at those people either. You have to forgive them. Not be like them. Give, but don't give them everything. Ration out things to them so that they can know, everything is not at their demand. And don't lower yourself and become like them.

There's nothing you can do but change yourself into something better. Set a good example and let honor and justice be your guide.

Hugz n Lub, Bebe da FairyGodMum